Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse - February 2011
Welcome to the February 26, 2011 edition of Carnival Against Child Abuse.
Here are the submissions for this month, and while we have a section for the theme made in the announcement, you will see that many others in different categories also speak to the theme of "truth."
Truth Theme Submissions
Castorgirl from "Scattered Pieces" presents My Truth. She wrote: "I was hoping for a non-controversial post, but apparently not possible. Here it is anyway. It's for the theme section. It was meant to be a post to help me to believe in my reactions, and move away from the need to analyse a diagnosis or autobiographical memory." This is a great post because the art image shows the dual realities of how we can appear "normal" to others, but inside the reality can be quite the opposite. And the text explores many common controversies.
Katie from "Sharing our Spaces" presents Truth. Katie made a wonderful statement about truth here, and as I said on her blog, I identified with what she wrote in that "truth" is not some static entity that represents, say, historical record. It represents more about who we are and that is constantly changing.
Astrid from "Astrid's Journal" presents My Truth on Dissociation and Childhood Trauma. Astrid brought up many of the core issues associated with memory and DID, for example exaggeration of trauma effects and the validity of DID. Her statement at the end that children who experience trauma are constantly being taught that their experiences are not trauma (i.e., that their truth is a lie) is one of the most troubling aspects of healing as an adult. When we get these messages as an adult, it only serves to reinforce those old invalidating experiences. Somewhere along the line we have to break the cycle.
Puzzled Hat from "All the King's Horses" presents It's Not My Fault. Puzzled Hat shares with us a music video "Fragile" by Ten Shekel Shirt that's been circulating around that addresses the effects of child abuse.
Paul from "Mind Parts" presents Multiplicity and Truth. I have talked about many of the issues related to the validity of dissociated identities and memories in the past. But, for me, this piece has really been an evolution that I never would have been able to write at any time in the past. It is interesting that I wrote this in the midst of a breakdown. And, actually, I ended up for a brief time in the hospital in part because of conflicting reactions I had to it. Regardless of those reactions, what I wrote here still represents my truth and my job is to hold onto that.
Paul from "Mind Parts" presents Expressive Arts Carnival No. 8: Your Truth. The Expressive Arts Carnival is a monthly event and is open to all survivors. Our next Carnival activity will be posted March 1 at Expressive Arts Carnival or email firstname.lastname@example.org to be added to our anonymous mailing list for announcements and occasional discussions.
Katie from "Sharing our Spaces" presents Remembering. Through an exploration of an anniversary, Katie is able to explore her truth and grief by trusting herself.
Shen from "Reunited Selves" presents Smoother Ground. Shen shares with us how she started on her healing journey that I am sure many can relate to, and how her journey has led her to a much better place.
Hope from "A Hope for Trauma" presents Just Keep Swimming. Echoing the comment I made on her blog, to be able to say to ourselves "just keep swimming" is a powerful statement of perseverance. I think it is also acknowledge how important it is to share experiences with people we trust face-to-face. I am not saying that the online blogging community is not helpful, but rather that having real life connections are an important supplement.
Advocacy & Awareness
SwordDanceWarrior from "May We Dance On Their Graves" presents Car Crash - or what PTSD is like - novel. She wrote: "A lot of people have told me that this post really captures what having PTSD is like." SwordDanceWarrior shares some excerpts from a novel she is writing. It is a difficult read but she relates experiences of accidental trauma in vivid detail and contrasts it with experiences of child trauma. She explores process, pain, and truths.
Sarah from "Cult of Deception" presents A Struggle. She wrote: "I've learned... the best revenge is to live my best life." Sarah shares here what many survivors understand too well; that we are so determined not to recreate abuses and hurt others, but instead turn them onto ourselves. In the process, she finds her truth and healing.
Rick Belden from "Poetry, Dreams, and the Body" presents Poetry on Video: "Body Memory". He wrote: "This is a video reading of my poem "body memory" with background and commentary." It is a very interesting use of video and audio to share expression. I admire him for doing this, and it gives me some things to think about in terms of how I may want to evolve in how I share my experiences. Be sure to check out the rest of his blog for many more poems and a link to his book "Iron Man Family Outing."
Tracie from "From Tracie" presents One the Verge. She wrote: "I find it much easier to share the truth of my childhood, the truth of feelings long ago felt... than it is to share the truth of what I feel in the moment. Recently, I allowed myself to type exactly what I was feeling and hit publish. Without second guessing my feelings or the truths behind them. It was very freeing." Tracie's poem shares some difficult feelings. I find it courageous when survivors share feelings in the moment. This was a very deliberate effort and I often find when I do pieces like this that they are freeing just like Tracie said it was for her.
Shen from "Reunited Selves" presents Invitation. Shen shares a poem of acknowledgement in the context of having been recently struggling with memories.
Patricia from "Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker" presents Anger, Fear, Sadness And Hurt - How They Interact - Part 1. She wrote: "This post is about a big ah-ha moment about the interaction of feelings and messages learned from being abused as a child." Patricia shares with us some of her thoughts on a post she read on another blog.
Patricia from "Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker" presents Anger, Fear, Sadness And Hurt - How They Interact - Part 2. In this second part, Patricia shares additional comments from reading another blog post.
Hope from "A Hope for Trauma" presents Styles. Hope contrasts her traumatic and chaotic experiences with some others she sees as supportive. It scares her to be a parent, wondering if she will break the cycle.
Clinically Clueless from the self-titled blog presents Hidden Pieces, Sexual Abuse,The Beginning. She wrote: "As I read this post in selecting what to use, I know that it is true, but I still can't integrate this... it really wasn't that bad. Denial!!" Clinically Clueless shares some traumatic explicit memories and I cannot help but feel empathic towards her. Yet I know that minimizing and denial is such a common way we cope. I hope some day she will be able to integrate what happened and gain healing.
Shen from "Reunited Selves" presents The Twelve Year Old. Shen shares a tragic story of her as a 12 year old on a road trip with her dysfunctional family that turned bad.
Shen from "Reunited Selves" presents An Eight-Year-Old's Perspective. Shen shares another story from her dysfunctional family as an 8 year child.
That's all folks! Thank you all for the honor of hosting this month's Carnival and for your wonderful submissions. You are all truly inspirational.
The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is maintained by Tracie and is a monthly event. Its purpose is to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse. All forms of abuse—physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, verbal—are discussed. We highlight blog posts, from child abuse survivor stories and their art & poetry, to child abuse as a topic in the news media, as well as PTSD, dissociation and other areas of the abuse "aftermath" that adult survivors are forced to deal with. We link to hopeful posts about therapy, recovery and healing from abuse. All forms of child advocacy and awareness are included.